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Lost in the Clamor
Read more: Lost in the ClamorThis is an excerpt from the book I’m working on: I become lost in the clamor of everyone else’s needs, desires, fears, and longings. As someone who desperately wants others to find their truth, this becomes dangerous. I’ve felt unsafe for most of my life. Even within the context of my most intimate relationships, I…
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On Withholding
Read more: On WithholdingWithholding. It’s something I used when I was too afraid to speak up clearly and completely; when I felt unheard, dismissed, or diminished. I chose to withhold, thinking it provided me with safety. All it really did was validate my inner story that I was on my own. I withheld affection, praise, tenderness, and information.…
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$27 Wine
Read more: $27 WineThis one is a difficult one for me to share, which is how I know it’s important. To some, it will seem silly and trivial. Many of you will judge me, which is always a risk when I share something personal. And yet…there may be one person out there that needs to hear this, who…
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Being Seen
Read more: Being SeenUntil now, I’ve never really believed that simply because something matters to me, that is enough. So, I’ve spent a lifetime delivering other people’s goals. It’s easy to get on board when the goal doesn’t belong to you. It’s not personal, even if you love the person whose goal it is, it isn’t yours to…
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Keep Choosing Action
Read more: Keep Choosing ActionThis morning, as I made my coffee in the dark, I felt that old, familiar feeling – doubt. Doubt that anything is impacted, regardless of what I do. The feeling that it’s all silly bullshit that I make up just to keep myself busy. There is some truth to this, or those of us who…